Do you ever have that feeling where you are just grinding and hustling and it feels like nothing is changing? You know you are planting the seeds for growth, but just like with anything, it takes time to see the fruits of your labour. This feeling is LONG!
This was me today in therapy, and I thought lets write about it in more depth to give some better context of whats going on in my head and why its probably relatable and relevant for everyone right now.
So my therapy reflections are as follows:
I had a powerful therapy session today, despite my energy being off. It was one of those sessions that leaves you deep in thought long after it ends and subsequently forced me to take it to my socials because we want to normalise the unfltered feelings that arise.
So basically we spoke about hard work and results. I know I’m working hard. My whoop band knows im working hard. And I'm just not talking about the gym. Im talking about the day to day shift to really make a change and move the needle closer to my goals.
I see the effort I’m putting in. Last week I recorded three episodes, spoke to 6 new faces in the podcast space for upcoming episodes and then had a handful of new potential client calls alongside the standard week of coaching, content creation, editing, blogging, posting, and connecting with even more new faces.
Sounds like a lot when I write it down but truthfully I want to be this busy because it's better than me sitting and twiddling with my thumbs.
The small wins are there. But at the same time, there’s this lingering frustration, this impatience that creeps in when the results I really want still feel out of reach. So Im moving the needle forward, but it doesn't feel like it.
With my training pla, I'm tracking the calories. Sticking to the food plan but the weight just wants to stay static this week! ARGHHHH. Albeit I'm moving the weights and training first thing in the morning it doesn't look nor feel like there is any real change!
With my content space, I'm creating the content but not finding the time to edit and post. Like its so easy to post, yet Im just sitting on the long form content and refusing to post because of made up excuses.
And then there is the element of posting your content and it not getting the reach you expected it too but you gotta keep posting because consistency is key.
When it comes to coaching, I'm kicking ass, and holding space for new faces but there is always the question of what more can you be doing to get closer to your goals right.
You know that feeling? Like you’re doing all the things, yet somehow, you’re still stuck in the middle?
And this is where therapy got a bit more interesting. With everything I am doing, the truth is I aint prioritising the key things I should be doing and it's due to fear. It’s the voice in my head that says, “This is too difficult, when its not, its actually very easy, but its better to prioritise something else then do this one task and not see any instant results on the back end of it.”
The difficult part is dealing with the aftermath, or in this case no aftermath from being uncomfortable. So my therapist broke it down.
My top 5 priorities for the week are as follows:
Prioritise your self care - however you want to describe this! Sleep longer, eat better, zone out if necessary, but give yourself a chance to come back stronger and braver to go again.
Plan everything. Stop winging everything. Organise your path forward and if you cant do this for the week, check in every evening to give you some clarity on what the to do list is for tomorrow.
"Just do it" - as Nike would say. Focus on the tasks on hand and before your fear gets the chance of sinking in and getting you overthinking just do it, Message whoever it is you need too. Make the call when necessary. Put your phone away so you are free from distractions. Stick to the plan and just do it.
Write a "Not to do list" and then start deleting things off that list becasue some of these things are just distractions and they hold no weight for your progress. Then you'll write on this list things like "fear of doing XYZ", "Negative self talk about my potential", "No energy to train at the gym", and very quickly do you strike these things out becasue these are things that need to be deleted from this list too.
Simply enjoy the process. The goal isn’t just the outcome—it’s also how you feel getting there.
So, here’s my takeaway: Growth isn’t just about action. It’s about alignment. Are you moving with intention, or are you just moving?
And albeit it feels like i'm moving with intention I can honestly say without checking myself back in it feels like I've been moving in autopilot mode, with no breaks and no real chance to hone in, so I'm going to be very conscious moving forward.
If you are feeling the same, and you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or impatient with your progress, maybe it’s time to pause, reset, and restructure. Give yourself permission to check in and really reflect.
If you need someone to help on this front, book yourself in for a 'Permission Granted' coaching call by clicking the button above and lets get you unfltered a bit like how my therapist did this for me.
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